Family Reflections...
Website Editor • January 9, 2023
Family Reflections...
Looking Forward & Looking Back Together
Hello, 2023!
The new year is a natural time to reflect on the last year and look toward the coming days of the new year. I am not normally super strategic about this, but felt Holy Spirit's prompting throughout December to create time and space for this with my family. So, I came up with 10 questions to help us look back and look forward. Our kids are 11, 14 & 16 so it seemed like a great time to start this now-annual tradition!
You know those family moments that feel so RICH and like TRULY MEANINGFUL TOGETHERNESS?
This was that.
We were honest. We shared our hearts. We encouraged and supported each other.
Imperfectly. But, it was great.
Everyone had a piece of paper and writing utensil. As I read each question, we quietly wrote down our answers. Once we had all 10 questions answered, we came together and all shared our answers to #1...then all shared our answers to #2 etc. Finally, we prayed. We each chose something to thank God for from the last year and something to pray about in the coming year.
Here are my 10 questions...
Give them a whirl! Or come up with your own versions based on your kids' ages!
- What was 1 highlight from 2022?
- What is 1 thing you are looking forward to in 2023?
- What is 1 thing you hope for in 2023 (non-material)?
- What do you want to do more of in 2023?
- What do you want to do less of in 2023 (school and chores are not valid answers...ha!)?
- What was something God did in 2022 that you get to celebrate?
- What is something God might be calling you to in 2023?
- When did you have the chance to be brave in 2022?
- What 'rhythm' did you have in 2022 that served you well to grow in your faith?
- What 'rhythm' might help for 2023?
Drop a comment if you intend to try this exercise! I would LOVE to hear how it goes for you!
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to RESTORE... “to bring back; to return something to its former condition; to recover” Let's talk about restoration. It’s a beautiful process with furniture and homes, but not always quick and easy! Restoration is even more beautiful when it’s in our hearts, minds and souls...but rarely a quick or easy process. First, we have to strip away lies we believe, then catch a vision for what could be! I’ve had the privilege of getting a front row seat to watch restoration of the soul take place in my own life and in others'…and what a sight! We're all made to live in alignment with God's view of who we are...but life happens. It is so easy to believe human criticism as truth. I bet most of us could recall something critical someone said to or about us from years ago. Those stick with you! But, that's not the end… God created each of us with specific giftings, influence, and core values on purpose. My heart is to restore your belief about who you are to its original condition through coaching and partnering with the Holy Spirit. To bring it back into alignment with God and what He says is true about you. There is so much HOPE & FREEDOM in the restoration of our souls...it may take some time & investment, but the end result is always worth the journey. Over and over I’ve met with people who see their giftings as boring or not ones they would choose. BUT GUESS WHAT? Every single gift or talent, personality trait, enneagram number or strength is important in this world. Every one of them…whether you like yours or not! So, why not choose to restore your hope in what God wants to do in, through and for you and step into the freedom of loving who God made you to be and what God has created you to do throughout this life? “He will fill you with refreshment even when you are in a dry, difficult place. He will continually RESTORE strength to you, so you will flourish like a well-watered garden and like an ever-flowing, trustworthy spring of blessing.” (Isaiah 58:11 TPT) “And then, after your brief suffering, the God of all loving grace, who has called you to share in his eternal glory in Christ, will personally and powerfully RESTORE you and make you stronger than ever. Yes, he will set you firmly in place and build you up.” (1 Peter 5:10 TPT) A prayer for your day… Lord, I am asking today that you would personally & powerfully RESTORE our passion for life! RESTORE our strength! Build us up and empower us to flourish like well-watered gardens in this life. I want to RESTORE my trust in You and who You say I am. May Your voice be the loudest one I hear today…speak Truth and life. Amen. We’re all on our own journey, but we don’t have to navigate it alone. I would love to come alongside you as He restores your soul to align with what He says is true! Contact me via my website form ( https://www.definedministries.com/contact ) or email me to start meeting! I’d love to hear from you in the comments section below! What resonated?
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My pile ‘o resources I’m wading through and pulling from to plan the BEST Defining Day: Vision EVER! What area of your life could use a VISION BOOST (I can help you find the area you want to focus on).
Vision ebbs and flows, doesn’t it? And sometimes just slowly fades with time. Let’s return, together, to intentional vision. How we live our one life matters.
Saturday, January 11, 1025
9:00am-12:00 Adults
2:00-4:00 High School Seniors
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Traditions. What is one of your favorite traditions over Thanksgiving? Share in the comments!
Our ‘lil town just celebrated our 1️⃣1️⃣0️⃣th year of plopping a giant, lit tree smack dab in the middle of our downtown. We go every year (the day after Thanksgiving) and stand in the circle with hundreds of other people to sing Christmas carols and countdown to the lighting of the tree. I imagine it’s a lot like Rockefeller. 🎄😉 My family loves this tradition (maybe because it also includes flavored hot chocolate we bring with us).
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I am thanking God for YOU today! Praying you have an amazing thank-filled day with good food, great people and some space to thank God for His good gifts. 🍂
Let me know how I can pray for you today!
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Is this a cheesy post image?
Absolutely! 😂
A Restorative Blessing of Truths.
I found these words (original author unknown) and they were titled ‘Breakfast Benediction’ and while I completely agree this would be a fantastic way to start the day, I believe they have a place at any moment in our days. So, I renamed it. And aren’t these Truth statements restorative to our soul? It’s simply who we are because of who God is in us.
Comment ‘Image’ and I will send you this image I created to be printed and hung wherever you’ll see it often!
The reality and understanding of the ‘WITH-NESS’ of Christ is mind-boggling in all the best ways. No matter your current circumstance, try pausing and acknowledging the nearness of God. Even when He may feel distant, He is still near. Over and over in the Bible, God says He will never leave us (Matthew 28:20, for example). Different circumstances may feel more comfortable, but we can know and stand firm in the fact that His gentle presence remains with each of us always…through it all. What a gift.
Praying God’s presence, goodness & love fill you to overflowing today! May we be present to ‘what is’ and not get stuck in ‘what was’ or ‘what we think should be’.
Does it even get any better than this? I am so incredibly grateful for what I get to do through Defined…getting a front row seat to God moving in powerful ways is such a gift.
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I can hear myself better & think clearer in the woods. Where do you go?
Hike hair; don’t care. 😜
HIGH SCHOOL SENIOR DEFINING DAY!
*open to both males & females*
Bring a friend & come for 2 hours of fun AND thoughtful vision for whatever is ahead for you! Sometimes we just need to make space to consider what’s coming in order to navigate it well.
Finish well.
Start well.
Know what you stand for.
Register on my website:
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Earn tickets for the drawing on 1/11:
• Bring a friend who names you on their registration
• Share any or all of my posts about this event and tag @definedministries
I am THRILLED to announce and offer an ALL NEW Defining Day! Registration is live on my website. Watch this page for Referral Discounts, drawing entries and another exciting announcement in the coming days!
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People put on a lot of ‘faces’ for a lot of reasons. I’m here to remind you that YOU are so very seen, known, chosen and loved for exactly who you are. For your own ‘face’.
Need help discovering the real you? One-on-one coaching can help!
Just for fun: Drop a pic of your fave costume in the comments!
Dressing up is a creative outlet for me. My fam (& some friends) love a reason to wear a costume (most of these pics were for events, concerts etc.). We have tubs of options in our basement and jump at any chance to be ridiculous. Anyone else love to dress up?
I took a half-day retreat this morning…in my own backyard…in my hammock. Ended up falling asleep (!!!) and it was glorious. How do you recover from a heavy work week (I worked my church job all day Sat & Sun)? Do you build in time to ‘retreat’ and catch your breath? How do (or would) you choose to recover/retreat/rejuvinate? A morning like today is so rare but I soaked it up for all it’s worth! ☀️🍁
Which one comes easiest for you?
Which one is currently most challenging?
We have a print with these words hanging on our fridge as a simple reminder. Loving any one of these is a choice. Additionally, as empowered individuals with free will, we are able to step back and look at why we’re not loving an area.
Ask yourself these questions:
• Is what I don’t love in or out of my control?
• If IN my control, what tweaks am I *realistically* able to make that could move me in the direction of love?
• If OUT of my control, remember your heart posture IS in your control and God is able to grow love, soften hearts, bring clarity and direct us!
Custom Coaching can be a transformative tool for you in any of these areas, but is not limited to these 4. Reach out if you are curious!
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Do you ever feel STUCK? I feel most stuck when my creative juices aren’t flowing…but the flow slows to a trickle when I’m stuck — NOT a helpful cycle to be in. I made a list Friday of some things I want to act on and create for Defined and put some wheels on those things today! And you know what? The fog has lifted. I’m in a creative space again. Woot!
What is lacking or happening when you feel stuck? What helps you get UNSTUCK? What lifts the fog for YOU?
Could you or someone you know benefit from some help getting unstuck? Reach out for customized coaching and personal championing!
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We do not walk alone. It’s easy to take the nearness of God for granted as we go about our days. But, God is SO near. He goes WITH us to our work, our classes, the school pickup line, the grocery store, our home, the bleachers. And God is an always good God. When we believe this, it brings peace and clarity. God’s perfect love drives out fear. When we walk in fear, we likely have a shallow understanding of the nearness…the WITHness of God.
“God is with you. And by God, I mean the Creator of heaven and earth. The Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. The supreme One. The King of glory…The immutable and transcendent God. The Lord of hosts. If that God is with us, we should be the most confident people on the planet…Faith in the nearness of God creates the resilience needed to keep leading, loving, giving, serving, and praying for.”
-Jackie Hill Perry, Upon Waking
Kayak, watercolor paint, take a walk in the woods, close my eyes and breathe deep. What works for you?
FULL COACHING QUOTE:
“I came into coaching looking for clarity and affirmation in what I was doing, but left with a much deeper clarity and affirmation in who I was. I didn’t realize that knowing who I was and knowing what motivates my actions would actually answer my question “what am I supposed to be doing?” I now have a deeper peace that I can carry into any season because I am more confident in my calling and giftings. I am a really practical thinker and I greatly appreciated the tools and structure that Julie brought for me to think on for each meeting. This really helped me to take far bigger steps in a few weeks than I would have been able to on my own.”
Overwhelmed with gratitude for what I get to do through Defined! What a privilege! @julieavh
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While near Seattle last week for a church board we are on, Jason & I were gifted 3 incredible nights on Whidbey Island! Our cabin was right on the beach …perfect for sunsets, beach walks at low tide & pods of dolphins. We also went to Deception Pass where the ocean comes into the Sound and soaked up the woods (aka Jason hugged big trees) 😉. We love the Pacific Northwest & our people there!
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Take a day off, friends! Drop a ✅ if you’re able to sabbath/rest this weekend! You can do it! Make the space!
Consider what falls in your ‘work’ category and what doesn’t! Paid jobs? Yes - that is work. Cooking/meal prep? Yes - also work for me (so we do take and bake pizzas every Sunday night). That might not be one for you! Maybe you love cooking and it brings you life! Awesome! Take a minute to define what feels like work and what doesn’t for YOU.
Perhaps we can make bragging about our rest as common as bragging about our busy-ness all the other days! 🤍
When I PLAN for these things and build them into my life in a really intentional way, I’m better for it (and so are those around me).
So - I will build in time in nature weekly, time to sit on my couch and breathe deep and read my Bible and time with a friend or friends. I will create/paint at least once a month (but ideally twice a month). I can be most fully who God created me to be with my family, too, and get that often in our home without scheduling.
What are your places and people and activities? How can you build more of that into your life? What if it only took 5 minutes a day? It might be as simple as blocking space on your calendar…then stick to it like an actual appointment! Share your plan in the comments! Or tips you have for others!
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“Because we fear loss, we make less-than-wholehearted decisions, hesitant decisions, circumscribed decisions, or no decisions at all - anything to avoid that pang of hindsight regret: I should have chosen that job, that partner, that school.” Ouch! Anyone else guilty of this in their lifetime? But we were not created to make decisions based on fear or divided hearts or out of an assumption of poverty in areas of life. Keep reading…
This and the image quote are from a book titled “What’s Your Decision? How to make Choices with Confidence and Clarity” by, J Michael Sparough, Jim Manney and Tim Hipskind
Decision-making is a real struggle for most. We have the opportunity to become aware of that struggle in order to make moves and wise choices in life…in order to NOT get stuck, but to keep moving. Noticing the struggle is the first step. THIS is where we find God’s voice and leading. THIS is where we find discernment. It does not help to beat ourselves up for the struggle, but to notice and name it then lean into discernment and God’s gentle voice.
Sometimes, it also helps to meet with someone to walk with through a season of discernment. If that’s you, reach out!
I am creating a worksheet with helps for discernment. Let me know if you’d be interested in something like that!
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☀️ Summer is nearing an end. Soaking up what’s left of our summer days with ice cream! What is your fave flavor and place to get ice cream?
Perspective and motivation can change everything. 🤍 Have a great Monday!
8 Spiritual Disciplines that foster growth
Which ones come the easiest for you? Are there any listed that you’d like to grow in or try?
• Worship, silence, solitude & sabbath come the easiest (which is wild because that has not always been the case!).
• I do not fast regularly and could grow in that for sure! What about you?
**This list was originally posted by Propel Women**
I don’t love answering this question but it’s a good one! What gets in the way?
For me, my top distraction is my phone.
Also a lack of planning. If I do not have a plan and/or a list, it throws off my focus.
What about you?
It’s Jesus. He has all this and more readily available for each and every one of us no matter where we’ve been or what we’ve done. Lean in. 🤍
What’s on your personal summer bucket list?
We are heading home now from an awesome vacation ✅. Swipe to see the rest of my list!
I also have a goal of sticking to the ‘what is’ instead of the ‘what was’. Summer used to be a completely different rhythm when our kids were younger. It has changed with jobs, licenses etc. I intend to do a better job of embracing the ‘what is’ in this season. 🤍
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Invest in what matters most. What would you add to these lists?
Originally posted by Ken Coleman.
I don’t agree that all pieces of these pies are equal, but I agree with the idea behind the image. 👍🏼
A resounding ‘YES PLEASE’ to extra courage and clarity that leads to moving forward purposefully for all of us!!! Jessi is a true delight to meet with. She is passionate, pure-hearted and oh-so-creative. 🤍
FULL QUOTE:
“Julie was a blessing that I did not know that I needed. She came alongside me and reminded me of all that God has put in me. I truly appreciate the listening ear, perspective and wisdom she imparted. Our time together gave me the extra courage and clarity I needed to move forward purposefully. What a gift that is.”
Complete the contact form on my website to start meeting! 🤍
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That’s right. I’m quoting myself on this one. Is it originally mine? I have no idea. 😂 Let me know if you know.
I really believe this. Many hobbies CAN be turned into a hustle and that’s great. But, I don’t believe we were created to make them ALL into hustles. Sometimes we have interests and hobbies JUST TO ENJOY THEM. To find REST and DELIGHT in the process of doing them because that’s how we are gifted!
I love to paint. I spent years not painting because the outcomes did not feel hangable or giftable. I was making it a (non-money-making) hustle. Once I realized that and worked through it, I discovered I loved the process of painting and it really is OK for me to paint…just…to paint. So, now I paint and just put it away! And my joy is found in the process of the hobby. My joy is not hinged on the outcome (or income from it!).
Just to re-iterate - some hobbies do become hustles and that is great. The important part is in the discerning. Fight the temptation to believe you need to make everything a hustle in order for it to be worth your time. 🤍
“You say ‘amateur’ as if it was a dirty word. Amateur comes from the Latin word ‘Amare’, which means to love. To do things for the love of it.” -Mozart in the Jungle
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A big temptation is to believe we need to have all the things figured out before we start something…or even just keep moving forward in something. The reality is, we often just need to know what’s next. What is the next right step?
Coaching can be incredibly helpful with identifying your next right step. I’m not going to just tell you what it is, but I will prompt you to a place of knowing. Then the next step…and the next…and the next. Before you know it, you’re rocking the thing that felt so far away before you started. 🤍
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FULL QUOTE 🤍:
“I was stuck. I was afraid of making mistakes. I knew God wanted me to make changes and big decisions in my life. It involved walking away from something important to me to step into the new place that God was calling.
Julie helped me to untangle the pieces and understand the changes I needed to make to be obedient to God.
Julie’s encouragement, wise counsel and new perspectives allowed me to move forward in trust and confidence. Her guidance was just what I needed to grow with God.
This was just the beginning of an exciting Spirit-led adventure. Once I was on my new path, Julie walked me through a process to discover who I am and why God made me this way. It focused my perspective and my choices on my journey to know God would use my unique gifts for the benefit of His kingdom.
With Julie’s guidance and God’s leading, the transformation in myself and the people around me has been a joy to witness. I highly recommend collaborating with Julie to understand and achieve God’s unique plans for your life.”
Watch out, world! Jennifer is a passionate testament to the goodness of God. She is living it out every day and ready to tell you about it! Her family, neighborhood and work place will never be the same! 🤍
Weird Question: Do you have a favorite wall? I would love to see it!
I just re-did this wall and I’m obsessed. I am in awe of and thankful for God’s creation we’ve gotten to see over the years. I am also feeling all the feels with the incredible memories represented. 🤍
L to R on top:
• Ruby Beach @ Olympic NP
• Great Sand Dunes NP in Colorado
• The Narrows @ Zion NP
L to R on bottom:
• Zion NP
• Glacier NP
• Grand Tetons NP
I’m going to be honest…we’ve had a rough week, so I’m choosing to find a win while caring deeply for my people. Not for the sake of faking it until I make it or slapping on a happy face when things are hard, but for the sake of keeping my eyes on my Savior. Because this, too, shall pass and this world is not our home.
My wins? • My hanging plant that is almost 3 weeks old isn’t dead quite yet! 😂 • I’ve read more than usual this week. • I have super flexible jobs so I am available for my kids as needed.
What’s your win? Please share! There is room for ALL our wins to be celebrated here.
Every time I meet with someone, I leave thinking “I can’t believe I get to do this!” What an absolute honor and gift it is to champion people toward living fully free and fully transformed lives. To help restore, equip and empower others to step into life wide awake to who they are because of who Jesus is and wide awake to what God is doing in, through and for them!
FULL QUOTE:
I’ve met with Julie for a year and I value our time together so much! When I started with Julie, I was full of grief and pain and needed someone to walk with me through that. Jesus has gifted Julie and the words that keep coming to mind when describing Julie are ‘hope-restorer’. She’s a great listener, compassionate and wise. She encourages me in my walk with Jesus, my family life and my purpose and I’m SO grateful for my time with her.
Complete my contact form on my website to start meeting!
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What do you know to be true that you didn’t know a year ago? Share your answer in the comments!
• This pic is from Mother’s Day. Jason was out of town and our kids planned and executed one of the best Mother’s Days I’ve ever had. 🤍 Here is what I know to be true: watching and experiencing my kids working together toward something (surprising me, in this case) is one of the best gifts ever. I knew I loved it, but the truth of a mom’s heart longing to see friendship between her kids is REAL. So - perhaps I knew this to be true last year. Mother’s Day was definitely not the first time they’ve done this. BUT…the depth of that gift was not lost on me. And I LOVE to be surprised! 🤍
You are not a mistake. God made you ON purpose. He made you WITH purpose. His purpose unfolds in our everyday life. God created us to know, love, trust, serve, delight in and experience Him and His presence. God also made you FOR a purpose. He specifically and uniquely designed you and when we are walking with Him in our giftings, our purpose becomes clearer.
Does this sound like a foreign language or are you reading this and left wondering if it’s even true for you? Are you searching for purpose? Reach out! I’ve created a 6-step coaching program where we walk through discovering all of this, for you, in a really personal way! Complete my contact form on my website to get started meeting!
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When we meet, it is a personalized time together. Every time. Coaching is highly customizable so whether you are navigating a transition (big or small) or dreaming or feeling stuck or wanting to strategize, we will start from wherever you are.
FULL QUOTE:
“Working with Julie has helped me organize my thoughts, as I am entering a new phase of my life. Her encouragement, affirmations and excellent questions have helped me to process all the changes I’m going through internally and in my career. This is giving me focus for the things that I’m being called to in a way that is consistent with who I was designed to be.”
Complete the contact form on my website to schedule your free Discovery Call. www.definedministries.com
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What podcasts are you listening to that you enjoy? Whether it’s to learn, grow, numb or laugh, I want to hear about it!
I bop around A LOT with podcasts. I don’t start at the beginning (unless it’s a continuous story) and I may or may not finish 😂, but here’s my current list:
⭐️ Practicing The Way podcast with John Mark Comer. Because I have plenty of room to learn & grow in contemplation and stillness. Loving this one right now.
⭐️ The Pour Over. SHORT (10 minutes or less), unbiased news with a focus on Christ no matter the news. Released every M, W & F. I remember to listen MAYBE once a week.
⭐️ Being Human with Steve Cuss. He has really great insights. It’s been called ‘counseling in podcast form’.
⭐️ The Jess Connolly Podcast. This one is pretty specifically for women. Good, solid truths.
⭐️ The Goal Digger with Jenna Kutcher. For small business entrepreneurs.
Please share your current faves in the comments!
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HAPPY LAUNCH DAY, @joy.fopma !!!
You guys. This book. Joy’s story. GOD’S GOODNESS. Freedom in Christ. Darkness to light. Resurrection power. Redemptive love. Buy it. Read it.
You might cry (I sure did), but they are tears of awe and joy found in Perfect Love (Jesus). 🤍
Sold on Amazon & wherever books are sold. You won’t regret it.
https://a.co/d/ea31KjJ
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BREATH PRAYER…for those moments and spaces in life where you feel unseen or under-appreciated…inhale: ‘My unseen labors’…exhale: ‘Are seen by You.’ You are seen by a Mighty God. And you are never alone in this world. 🤍Try this breath prayer…then I’d love to hear what you experience as you pray it. #definedministries #lifecoach #leadershipcoaching
What is something you need to add or shed in order to grow?
In all honesty, I’ve been shedding my own perception of others’ perception of me (again). Fear of ‘man’. I detest when these thoughts rear up. Fear of man is a strong way the enemy attempts to squelch who God made us to be and the things He calls us to do with that.
But: What happens when I show up as fully myself? Does it even matter what ‘man’ thinks then? Or only what God thinks about that freedom?
I’m shedding the oppression and weight of feeling squelched. I’m adding more and more freedom.
What are you adding or shedding?
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The administrative side of Defined Ministries is, admittedly, not my favorite part. So, I get together with my friend, Joni Pine, monthly for ADMIN WORK DAY. First, we catch up and then we get to work. We bounce ideas off each other and laugh a lot. This monthly commitment is both productive and life-giving for me!
How do you get all the things done (especially the things that are not your favorite)?
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That time I busted my coworker taking a pic of me during a meeting (and then, of course, posed for it). Why was he taking it? My sweater matched my laptop cover which matches Defined Ministries branding colors. 😂 #definedonthemind
I’ve been absent on social media for nearly 3 months, but Defined Ministries is alive and well! I’ve had a full load of coaching participants and it’s been an absolute blast.
As some are wrapping up, I will have openings soon!
Don’t forget: Defined offers ‘gift cards’! If you have a graduate (HS or college), a stellar mother or wife (Mom’s Day is coming right up) or you are wondering if coaching could be a great fit for you, contact me at Julie@DefinedMinistries.com to schedule a free Discovery Call!
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DEFINING DAY is coming and there is room for YOU! A day to hit the pause button on life in order to notice and consider. Space to breathe deep, laugh and grow in our understanding. Lunch, materials and content provided. And did I mention there will be coffee? ☕️
What’s stopping you from coming? I’ve had a couple people email me to ask if Defining Day would be helpful for their current specific life circumstance. I will be honest with you if you are wondering or have any questions!
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Register at link in bio or here:
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Shout out to the shoe-picker friends! Which shoe would you have picked?
This is me leaving to speak/facilitate an evening for women at a church in Mason City last week. BUT FIRST I needed help with these pants I had just found at a thrift store. Everybody needs at least 1 friend in their lives to send shoe pics to (that also include the pile of shoe options reflected in the mirror). 😂 Who is your shoe-picker friend?
Read what people thought of Defining Day last time it happened. I would love to have you join us at this one on Saturday, February 24th from 9:00am-1:00pm.
Click (or copy and paste) the link below to register or visit the link in bio:
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Back by popular demand!
Join us for Defining Day!!!
Hosted at Harvest Vineyard Church. Open to anyone.
Registration Link in bio.
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SEATTLE, WA!!! 🤍 Jason and I got to speak last weekend at a youth retreat outside of Seattle in the Mount Baker area (no pics of retreat to honor their privacy).
Incredible group of youth • Amazing team of volunteers • MIGHTY God at work.
We stayed for an extra 1.5 days to be with friends in Seattle and it was beautiful time together. Last pic is where we got to wait out our delays in Denver on our way home. Not too shabby. 🏔️
So super thankful for this opportunity. Join us in praying for the kids that surrendered their lives to Jesus and those who encountered Him in new ways. 🤍 God is so very good.
Julie Van Hove
I attended a webinar this week about overcoming Imposter Syndrome…how we ‘balance’ humility and calling, contentment and passion, surrender and authority. I love learning new and fresh ways to coach in this area!
I’m guessing we’ve all been there…I know I have in different seasons and I have coached many individuals in this season as well. Maybe you’re there now. If you are feeling this and could use some kingdom- focused and Spirit-led coaching to overcome, reach out. I will champion you in your calling, growth and leadership!
Simply complete the contact form on my website to get started!
www.DefinedMinistries.com/contact
Imposter Syndrome: “The persistent inability to believe one’s success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one’s own efforts or skills.”
Spent the weekend in Wisconsin speaking at a women’s retreat and what a gift it was. We laughed, we played, we rested, we prayed. Thank you, St John’s women, for the warm welcome! Also - when you retreat in WI and the Packers play an important game while you’re there, a TV is set up for all the hootin’ and hollerin’!
Bonus: My mom came with!!! 🤍 Jan McDermott
Looking for a speaker for your next retreat/event? Reach out via the contact form on my website:
www.Definedministries.com/contact
What’s your favorite birthday memory?
I have many. Even my snowed-in birthday yesterday was no exception. My 17-year old spent hours making this AH•MA•ZING cake. 🤍 A birthday that was simply unforgettable was when I turned 40, my 2 besties surprised me with a trip to AZ for a few days. I’m hard to surprise, but I LOVE SURPRISES so it was epic they pulled it off!
Day 12 of The 12 Days of Reflection!!!
We did it!
I’d like to challenge you to name 1 word that describes how you would like to feel at the beginning of 2024. Physical, Spiritual, Mental, Emotional. Any word.
And then take a minute to consider what, if anything, is in your control to make that happen. Is there something you can do or consider to move in that direction?
I want to feel fully present and fully alive. 2 super practical (& physical) things I can do/ have control over are to put my phone down more often and get better sleep.
Julie Van Hove
Day 11 of the 12 Days of Reflection.
What did you learn this year? About yourself, about God and His Word, about life? What did God teach you?
I feel like I’ve grown in trust and learned more about the importance of simple obedience this year. God continues to teach me about His deep and faithful trustworthiness and how I can partner with Holy Spirit daily in simple acts of obedience. Change may not always be immediate, but these simple acts add up.
Day 10 of The 12 Days of Reflection
What were some hope-builders this year?
What relationships and/or events grew your hope this year?
Hope can feel dangerous. Just ask the young couple unable to have a baby thus far. Or the friend for whom you pray and pray for healing. Or the parents of an adult child making poor choices. The list goes on…
Hope can be hard and sometimes feels dangerous. Our ultimate hope is found only in relationship with Jesus. Hope in Christ does not disappoint. Ever.
So. What built your hope this year? What encouraged your soul? Be dangerous and name it. 🤍
Thankful for each of you today. And thankful for that precious baby boy, Jesus. We will resume the 12 Days of Reflection tomorrow! 🎄
Day 9 of The 12 Days of Reflection
What do you want to do less of in 2024? Earlier today, I asked what do you want to do more of. Now, what do you want to do less of? Then - HOW will you do less of this? What is 1 next small step toward doing less of it?
Julie Van Hove
Day 8 of The 12 Days of Reflection.
I missed a day (or 2) so we’re going to do 2 today!
What do you want to do more of in 2024? What was something life-bringing for you in 2023 that you’d like to create space in 2024 to do even more of it? Then I’d love to hear 1 super practical small step toward that. HOW will we do more of ‘it’ if we don’t plan for it? So: what is your next small step toward more?
@julieavh
Day 7 of The 12 Days of Reflection
Oof. Limitations can be hard in and of themselves and sometimes even harder to admit. And? We all have them. Whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual…we live with limitations. We are imperfect, finite beings after all.
I struggle with accepting my own limitations. As I age, I feel my body’s limitations increase. I have significant back issues that limit my adventurous spirit big time. Yesterday, those issues limited my walking and functionality.
There are 3 ways to respond to limitations…
• DENIAL: ‘I have no limitations. Nothing can stop me’ (hopeless and unrealistic)
• RESIGNATION: ‘Well, this is the way it is (terrible) and probably always will be, so why try?’ (this is a hopeless place to be)
• CONSENT: ‘This is where I am. What do I need as I live with this? What might/could God be doing through it?’ (this is the only realistic yet hopeful place to land. Living with the limitation, considering what you need right now and what God could do)
I am trying to live in consent. I waver between resignation & consent but - to my core - I want to live in hopeful spaces. Not solely hopeful for healing (but I’d take that in a heartbeat) but also hope in a God who loves me and meets me in my limitations in powerful ways. And I have found some practical strategies that help me move & function!
If you are uncomfortable answering this in the comments, shoot me a message! I’d love to pray for you! 🤍
Julie Van Hove
Day 6 of The 12 Days of Reflection
Is there a place, situation or group of people in your life you’d like to more fully ‘show up’ for? Where do you want to be more fully yourself and invest in the relationships around you?
I always want to answer this with ‘at home with my family’. They deserve it. And I do more consistently fully show up as fully myself with them than anyone else. So, I’m going to actually say Defined. I believe this is a calling and I do desire to honor that by more fully showing up and going after it! The transformations I have the honor of seeing are nothing short of incredible and I’m so excited to lean in and continue championing people toward that!
Day 5 of The 12 Days of Reflection
Had a stomach bug yesterday so I missed a day. 🤷🏼♀️ We’re just moving ahead. How did God surprise you this year?
He surprised me by His faithfulness and trustworthiness. I wish that wasn’t a surprise, but He does still surprise me with it! I hope to never be so used to the amazing ways He shows up that I am numb to it, but a joyful celebration instead of ‘surprise’ would be good. 😉
Day 3 of the 12 Days of Reflection!
How do you best rest? Like, real rest that fills you up as you feel the exhale. I’m a go-er but the older I get, the more I crave rest. I do not crave numbing out (which is sometimes, admittedly, where I land) but real rest.
I find it in a slow morning with a cup of coffee and a devotional or Bible. This is my favorite. I find it on water - in a kayak - with my husband or a friend. I find it at my table with watercolor paints. Especially if my kids join me.
Where do you find rest? And how do you make time for it? While it’s fulfilling and grows gratitude in me, it always leaves me wanting more. 🤍
Day 2 of The 12 Days of Reflection…
This is a great time of year to consider what is ACTUALLY on your plate. Is there anything you are just assuming is on your plate or an unrealistic expectation of things on your plate? What’s 1 thing you could remove?
I truly want to hear! Comment below or message me your answer!
Let me know! I would love to celebrate with you!
Praying for and thanking God for you today! 🦃🍁 Drop your favorite Thanksgiving dish in the comments!
I feel this deeply and could probably name at least 5 unfinished projects. How about you? Be honest! How many unfinished projects do you have and which one will you choose to *imperfectly* finish first? Share in the comments!
Home from Mississippi and WOW • WHAT • A • WEEKEND!!! I had the absolute privilege of speaking at a women’s retreat in the woods outside of Jackson.
God was and is so clearly on the move in, through and for these women and I consider myself blessed to know each and every one of them.
From worship to impactful prayer ministry to laughter to breakthroughs, we praise His holy name for it all.
Thank you, Revive, for inviting and welcoming me! 🤍 It was a gift to be with you. May we make space to sit in Jesus’ presence and be ‘SO SHE’ women!
I’m not sure where this originated, but I can’t stop laughing. 😂 It’s so corny, but I like corny.
I love this prayer and the idea of giving ALL of ourselves to God…the lack along with the goodness; the tired along with the zeal; the uncertainty along with the certainty. It is all kindling for drawing closer to Him. It may feel like nothing, but He wants that too. May we lay it all out with great vulnerability and raw honesty. He wants it all. 🤍 He’s a pro at making something out of nothing.
Ephesians 3:20 (NLT)
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
Are you where you want to be? Are you doing the things you feel equipped and called to? Sometimes change is needed. And? Sometimes it’s not! What if your placement in life at the moment/for this season just needs a fresh infusion of passion?
• I’ve coached a number of people into launching non-profits and new businesses.
• I’ve coached women longing or searching for purpose & passion.
• Mostly, though, I’ve coached women who simply need a fresh perspective on where they’re at…a reminder of the passion they have or have had. An infusion of passion, if you will.
Does your placement need a passion infusion? Or do you feel called to an actual change in placement? Either way, coaching can help you navigate the way.
Click the link in bio to start meeting or to ask questions about meeting!
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Last week, Jason & I had the opportunity to speak at the Regional Gathering for Christian Camp & Conference Association (CCCA) leaders at one of our favorite places (Riverside).
I love getting to speak and do ministry with my hubs. It is such a gift. And we love camping ministry and those that lead in that arena. Camp can be such a powerful place of ministry. It can transform one’s faith and view of God!
What is your favorite camp experience? I’d love to read it in the comments!
We spoke about the theme ‘In Us & Through Us’…about simple obedience to Christ, curious and compassionate communication and more. Super thankful for the opportunity to be part of this gathering. 🤍
Need a speaker for your next event?
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Today is a ‘recover & prep’ day! I took the morning to catch up on a Bible study I’m doing with my sister & mom, do some Defined admin & communication and prep for a women’s retreat I’m speaking at in Mississippi next month! Also laundry and clearing the kitchen counters. It all matters. WHAT ARE YOU UP TO TODAY?
@julieavh
FULL QUOTE: “My time with Julie brought me an abundance of hope and encouragement from the moment we started meeting. During our time together I gained a better understanding of our Father and the intentional way he designed me. Julie was brilliant in challenging me to seek God and find a better understanding of his purpose for me. I walked away with a better understanding of myself, but more importantly, God's character and His deliberate love.” 🥹
Katie is so deeply faithful and trusting. She has a heart to show Jesus through serving and is an incredible human. We had never met before and did online meetings because she lives out of state. What a GIFT our time together was for me, too.
God is SO GOOD, you guys. So very good. And He has hope, encouragement, purpose and deliberate love for you too. 🤍
www.definedministries.com (link in bio)
@julieavh
#definedministries #leadershipcoach #ministrycoach #lifecoach
Parenting pro-tip. 😂😉
GROWTH & CHANGE can be painful. But, so can staying where you are if it’s not where you BELONG.
We BELONG in God’s will for our lives. We BELONG where He calls us. And? Sometimes we get stuck where we don’t belong. Sometimes we don’t know where to start in order to move into the very right next thing. We’ve all been there.
Are you there right now? Are you on the verge of growth and change toward belonging? Do you feel it coming? Or are you wondering what the very right next thing to do is?
Oooooooh, yeah! You are in a great spot! It might not feel like it, but when we are willing and in ‘ready position’, God can MOVE! And coaching can help! For real! Let’s meet! You are officially invited to become a Defined Ministries participant. 🤍 I promise to advocate the best I know how for your maximum impact in this world and on those around you.
WELCOME, GROWTH (if simply learning more about who you are because of who He is) & CHANGE (if simply a change of heart or mindset)!
www.definedministries.com/contact (link in bio)
julie@definedministries.com
@julieavh
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I truly consider it an honor to be asked to speak anywhere. A couple weeks ago, I had the privilege of speaking at my own church’s women’s retreat with the theme ‘Nourish’. We got to dig deep, connect, play, be nourished, get real, laugh and make memories. 🤍
There is such value in retreating with people…it deepens friendships and connects people in ways that exceed a normal day. The time and space set aside to be nourished by our one and only nourisher, Jesus, is a sweet, sweet space to be in.
Go to a retreat! And then take the posed selfie ON the gas station’s brontosaurus! 😂😜
Need a speaker for your next event? Reach out! Link in bio or visit www.definedministries.com.
Julie Van Hove
Jan McDermott
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What book(s) are you reading?
What book genre is your favorite?
I just finished a novel that was ‘meh’ but it was a great break from reading only to learn & grow.
Next in line? You Are the Girl for the Job by @jessaconnolly, Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans and I also pre-ordered a new devotional called Upon Waking by @jackiehillperry. I can’t wait to dig in to each of these! 🤍
📸 @zoeavh @julieavh
It was such an honor to champion Anna into her dream of writing Christian camp curriculum for youth camps across the nation! She is not only an incredible human who loves Jesus with everything she’s got, but also a passionate creative! Check her stuff out at www.camp315.com!
Full quote:
“Working with Julie has been exactly the “rocket boost” I was needing! I was nervous about being ‘defined’ by someone else’s ideas, but Julie has instead helped me REFINE the vision God has been leading me toward for years. When we started meeting, I already had a solid goal and a lot of pieces to the puzzle, but she was able to help me sort through the dreams and details to find the next right steps. Having soft deadlines and lots of resources has been super helpful. Even better, Julie has been an INCREDIBLE encourager, celebrating with me when I hit milestones and for me when I’m overwhelmed. I am so grateful for the way she listens to both my words and my heart and I have been blessed by her prayers and support.”
Camp315
Longing for a ‘rocket boost’? 🚀😉
Click the website link in bio to contact me! Championing people into their God-given dreams is my fave!
Go to www.definedministries.com/contact to bring Defining Day to your community or church!
Well, that went fast! 🤍
Preaching to the choir on this one. 🙋🏼♀️
What constitutes ‘rest’ for you? Do you have certain things you do or places you go that help your body & soul rest? How do you build rest into your life when a vacation isn’t possible? And why is it so hard? What specific obstacles do you have & how do you find yourself overcoming them? I really want to know!
I like to think about rest as soul-renewing. The opposite of soul-depleting. If I took my rest as seriously as any ‘hustle’, I would (1) sleep more (2) sit and breathe deep in God’s presence more (3) get on, in or by some water or mountains or beautiful scenery (4) feel a deep, deep peace in my core…a soul renewed. 🤍 My biggest obstacle is myself. I could schedule it in/block time off in my calendar. I could put all electronics away so I’m not tempted to just ‘check in’ on email quick in the evenings.
What would you be willing to try in order to take your rest more seriously?
www.definedministries.com
Julie Van Hove
1 year + 5 months ago, I shared my behind-the-scenes setup for when I do online coaching and all of that has remained true…UNTIL TODAY!!! I now have an off-site office/room to try out online meetings in as needed and I am beyond giddy and incredibly thankful!
🎉🎉🎉🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🤍🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🎉🎉🎉
Also - Defining Day was so very good! I will be posting a recap and pics soon!
EEEEK! I created a workbook, of sorts, for tomorrow’s Defining Day. Just picked them up from the printer and I am straight-up giddy. So very cool to see the stuff I’ve been dreaming of, planning for, working toward and most importantly called to come to life! 🤍🎉🤍 Praying God’s peace, power, protection and presence over everyone coming and over our day together.
@julieavh
Last call for registrations!
• Saturday, August 26th
• 9:00am-1:00pm
Insta: Link in bio
FB: https://forms.gle/yJkZMo4F7oMaTFsn8
I need a final count by end of day Tues! Let me know if you have any questions! Description, cost etc is on the form. 🤍
• What was your favorite thing you checked off your summer bucket list this year?
• What do wish you’d been able to do?
I don’t actually write out bucket lists, but I do find myself thinking (at this point of summer), ‘oh, bummer! We never got to do much of ________.’
My answer to those 2 questions are in the comments. 👇🏼 I’d love to hear yours!
Those of us in Iowa have less than a week until school starts! What can we squeeze in?!? 🤔
Sometimes I cry when I read these because of God’s goodness. So incredibly thankful for the ‘work’ God has called me into and the ways in which He chooses to move.🤍
Full quote: “ I started meeting with Julie after facing numerous health and work related struggles. I was questioning whether or not I had chosen the right career, even though I was doing exactly what I had dreamed of and felt called to. For years, I worked long hours and forfeited family time and hobbies in the interest of my career. When those years of hard work didn’t pay off in the way I expected, or in the way the world expected, I felt lost, hopeless and disconnected from God. Through thoughtful questions and attentive listening, Julie helped me understand I was measuring my value and worth by human standards of success rather than my inherent value as a child of God. She identified my burnout and suggested next steps so I could continue doing the work I love. Most importantly, she walked me through rebuilding a connection with Jesus through study, prayer and a little bit of yelling (mine, not hers). The work is ongoing, but I feel more at peace than I have in a long time. Her care and guidance were instrumental in healing my heart and helping me find joy again.”
YESSSSSSSSSS, BECKY! God is so good in & through you.
Click the link in bio to start meeting or to attend Defining Day, a day carved out for YOU on August 26th!
My prayer for US today. 🤍
Have a great day, friends!
📸 from our trip to the Grand Tetons this summer!!!
Join us! Registration link in bio!
If you call Harvest Vineyard Church in Ames your church home, please serve with We Heart Ames on this day! I will be offering Defining Day again so come next time! 🤍
SAVE THE DATE!!! This day retreat is launching in Story City at the end of August! Keep watching here for details OR message me your email address if you’d like to be the first to hear it all! It’s going to be SOOOO GREAT!!! 🎉
Anyone else a parent of a teen who is **slightly** obsessed with .5 pics? 😂 Good thing I think they’re hilarious. Just for kicks: Show me your fave .5 pic in the comments!
Full Coaching Quote:
“Julie wants to see people grow deeper with the Lord and to become more intentional with their lives. I have been in ministry for 20 years and walking with Julie through Defined Ministries has really helped me focus in on my God given gifts and the ‘why’ behind my life.” - Becky B
Loved my time with Becky. She lives with such passion!
Reach out via the contact form on my website (link in bio) to start meeting! Let’s commit to living lives with intention and purpose!
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We’re international, ya’ll!!! I’m coaching someone overseas, but I’m way more excited to be meeting with this person because of who she is than the fact that she doesn’t currently live in the US. 🤍 But still…I’m a celebrator and going international is worthy of a celebration! 🎉🎉🎉 Drop your favorite ‘celebration’ emoji in the comments!
#definedministries #leadershipcoach #ministrycoach
Julie Van Hove
I’ve been absent from this account for a couple months! Sometimes I just need to step away and breathe. BUT - I am working on something for YOU that I am so incredibly excited about! WATCH HERE for more info coming SOON!!!
Our summer trip took us to some really incredible National Parks/Monument: Tetons, Yellowstone, Teddy Roosevelt, Rushmore, Wind Cave & Badlands (+ the Black Hills).
Incredible sights. Yet this 👇🏼 was one of my favorite moments. Drinking coffee and soaking up the Tetons from our campsite. This trip was CHALK FULL of challenges for us, but one of my highlights was rallying and pivoting as a family…over and over and over and over. 😉 We have some great memories. 🫶🏼
What are you seeing this summer? I’d love to hear!
Simply could not be more thankful than I already am for my mom. She works hard, loves well, encourages much, laughs often and speaks Truth always. 🤍 So grateful to get to ‘do life’ with her! Love you so much, mom!
We all have seasons of feeling stuck or blocked. Taking a look at our complaints in those seasons can be incredibly revealing and telling. Do you feel stuck or blocked? These are 2 fantastic reasons to seek one-on-one coaching with someone (ahem, me) to help you navigate through it! Simply fill out my contact form on Defined’s website: www.definedministries.com/contact to get started!
After a completely fabulous morning speaking and facilitating a mini-retreat with the women of Des Moines Vineyard Church Saturday, I had the privilege of attending a fundraiser for the nonprofit @walkwithyounonprofit I coached Kylie Collins who founded this incredible organization. She is doing great things and leading in incredible ways. Her heart is so FOR bereaved parents experiencing child and infant loss. If you know someone who is or has experienced a tragedy as such, please follow their FB and Insta pages and connect your person with Kylie and her team. They offer services they might not even know they need from assistance in funeral planning and professional photography to parent mentors who have walked through similar loss.
WWW.WALKWITHYOUNONPROFIT.ORG
515.612.7237
Walkwithyoutoday@gmail.com
Do you have a dream on your heart? Still searching for your dream? I would LOVE to help coach you into it! Reach out!
Www.definedministries.org/contact
It’s really one of the few things we have actual control over. How we react to what is happening around us.
I am far from having perfected it, but when I hit pause to think about how I want to react, I often land in the ‘respond’ category which I greatly prefer. When we can respond versus react, it means we are doing so with thoughtfulness and care.
Reacting insinuates impulsiveness.
Responding insinuates patient thought.
The power of the pause is a real thing. My mind and heart are able to make the shift to respond.
I would LOVE to hear (in the comments) if this has ever been a growth area for you, too.
www.definedministries.com
The image is from the book ‘The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse’ by Charlie Mackesy.
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✅ Online coaching calls
✅ Webinar to learn/grow
✅ Zoom with my besties
✅Speaking prep for Saturday’s women’s event
✅ Chiro appt.
Some days you’re just able to get more done than others. And that’s OK. 🤍 Today’s list is significantly shorter with a sick kiddo at home. And that’s OK too. I’ll take all the snuggles. 🤍
@julieavh
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